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Deep within each of us is a blueprint for our ultimate perfect expression.  It is the potential we have within us to become awesome.  This is not some vague wish-fulfillment fantasy fluff, but real hard-core potential unique to each of us.  It is built into our genes and epigenetic coding, and offers us the fulfillment of generations of our ancestors passing down their experiential “wisdom” in the form of epigenetic modifications on the expression of our genes.  This manifests not only in our health physically, but emotionally, mentally, socially, and even spiritually.

How do we access this potential and make it manifest?  Different aspects of this are the subject of many of my newsletters – from what to eat and not eat, exercise, relationship skills, self perspectives, lifestyles, and so on.  But newsletters are sort of a pot luck affair.  You may find something that fits your needs today, but more likely the information is just stuff that gets shelved in your brain for use later when it becomes relevant.  This is perfect.  It is perfect because we each have a very individual path in our unfoldment of self.  We need what info we need when we need it and not before.  We face challenges in life that prompt us to apply the effort to adapt, change, and grow in order to meet those challenges.  But that process is unique to each of us?  When we meet a challenge that we don’t know how to overcome, we feel hurt, wounded, and broken in some way.  This is when we dig deep into our subconsciousness blueprint to come up with a deep wisdom within us for a creative solution.  At least we can if we know how…

This is where Self Guided Healing comes in to help.  Self Guided Healing is in caps because that is the name Ellen is giving to the newest, most powerful version of Heartflow and Gracework we have been creating for the last many years.  We have been beta testing Self Guided Healing for almost two years with our biweekly study group.  It is now ready for everyone.

The name says it all.  Only you have the answer to creatively address the challenges in your life.  The trick is to get the right information to address all the blocks in the way of your forward movement.  We have identified five fundamental pieces that block most people and keep them from opening to their best answer to meeting the challenges that face them.  These are the core fear blocking you, the false entitlement story you invented, the self misperception you created, the sustaining lie that keeps the dysfunction going, and the limiting self-belief that locks you into the old pattern.  Each of these five pieces of misinformation in our system has to be replaced with upgraded feeling perspectives.  With this new information we can then move forward to tackle our challenge with inner tools that will give us better results.

This all sounds pretty esoteric, so let me relate an example I used many years ago about a challenge with a teeter-totter.  Imagine a long teeter-totter.  You are sitting on one side and somebody else is sitting on the other.  Balanced right in the center is a big bag of candy.  Both of you are hungry for the candy.  The challenge is to play on the teeter-totter and also get some candy.  As you know, for a teeter-totter to work both of you have to balance each other so you can have the fun of going up and down.  You have the skills to meet either one goal or the other, but you don’t know how to meet both at the same time. 

So what choices do you have?  If you decide you don’t like the other person and slide yourself way back on the teeter-totter, you cause them to go up in the air and you go down to the ground.  Here you have managed to refuse to play with them (the up and down play stops), but you have also pushed yourself away from the candy.  If you decide to go for the candy and slide forward, then the other person drops to the ground and again the playing stops.  That person is stuck on the ground having no fun and getting no candy.  In either retaliation or boredom they decide to step off the teeter-totter and go play somewhere else.  You now crash down, roll over backwards and hit your head while spilling and losing all the candy.  So that didn’t work.

If you both don’t like each other but your mom’s said you had to play, you both might move to the ends of the teeter-totter.  There is balance here although the ride is a bit wild with such big swings up and down.  Unfortunately neither of you can reach any candy.  If both of you aggressively get on the teeter-totter determined to get the candy and the heck with playing, then both of you slide up as close to the candy as possible.  Now however, you are both face-to-face and you start fighting over the candy.  Punching and hitting and defending yourselves actually gives you no opportunity to eat and enjoy any of the candy.  Huh, still not working.

There are a thousand variations of positions on the teeter-totter, but there is only one that works.  Both of you have to slide forward just far enough to reach into the bag of candy to get a piece, but not far enough to be in the other person’s space where you could fight or compete with each other.  In this place you are far enough back to be able to enjoy each others company and both have fun tottering back and forth while sharing the candy.  To achieve this effectively you will have to engage and communicate with the other person to establish trust enough that you can both work together to move toward the candy while staying balanced.  That involves a bunch of interpersonal skills you may not have had.

All the different skills necessary to reach your goal are already “on board” buried in the epigenetic “history” you inherited from your direct line of genetic ancestors.  Yes, feeling skills and relationships are passed on to succeeding generations in this way.  This information can be accessed through muscle testing your body.  The answers are already within you.  You just need a skilled interpreter to pull the information out of your subconscious.  This is what Ellen does.  When she puts it all together you can feel its “rightness” in your bones.

Paying attention to your feelings is the key to unfolding your potential to manifest the perfect you in your perfect life.  This does not mean what you probably think it means.  Feelings are visceral internal sensations that tell you how you are doing.  They are like the dashboard dials and lights in your car.  They tell you whether you are running too hot, are running out of gas, or if you are traveling within the speed limit.  Feelings do not have any stories attached to them.  They do not have any history to them.  They are not about anything other than your internal sense of balance and happiness with life.  Psychiatrists and counselors deal with the play of emotions, which come up when our interactions with life are not working.  Emotions are about the story of what has gone wrong (or right) in our interactions.  What we really need to know is did our interaction leave us feeling balanced and good or not.  If yes, then we are on the right track. If not, then we need to do and be something else (pick a different position on the teeter-totter).  We end up having to go to a counselor when we are too stubborn to move and think that it is the “the other person” that needs to be different.

We have power over how we perceive life and ourselves.  That may be the only power we have much of the time.  We have no power over how other people feel or see things.  Yet despite this simple truth, most people insist on wasting their efforts in life on trying to change others rather than using the real power they have and changing their own perspectives.  We are not here to demand other people be our way, nor are we here to suppress ourselves to please others.  We are here to shine out our unique creative bliss and love and let that attract those who find they enjoy it.  Who we are when we shine is not going to please everyone, but it will please enough for us to create and enjoy the connections we need.

Self Guided Healing is available now at the office.  Schedule with Ellen for support in your next step in growth.

Take care,

David     

Ellen update:    

Ellen and I invited my mom and Susan McDonald over for an Easter brunch this last weekend.  Naturally I used the occasion as an excuse to try out some new recipes.  I decided to create the feeling of an Easter egg hunt by coloring whipped egg with organic vegetable dyes and baking that in egg shaped molds.  I put the "eggs" in a bed of arugula to simulate grass.  Beside that was a plate of bacon roses, a bowl of pickled vegetables, and a pan of paleo sugar free cinnamon rolls.  This was complimented with a mix of pomegranate and cherry juice as a beverage.  Dessert was left over sugar free peanut butter cup eggs that I had made for my grand kids. Everything was delicious and a good time was had by all.