A couple weeks ago I attended a four-day class that taught me different techniques for changing subconscious beliefs.  Since it is our subconscious mind that controls our life, it seemed a worthwhile investment of time to learn how to have some input into that system.  A part of the class was allowing our subconscious to communicate to us through what appears to our conscious mind to be random choices.  Each morning we would choose a card at random from about a hundred cards face down on a table.  Each card had a different meaningful word on it.  We would then talk about what meaning that word had for us.  My cards from the four days were contentment, revelation, success, and contentment again.

At the end of the class we were to put all four words together into a phrase that had meaning to us.  The fact that I drew contentment twice felt significant.  The phrase that bubbled up within me was - The revelation is that success is measured by contentment.  I have been letting this stew for the last couple weeks and excellent insights flowed from this revelation.  Of particular interest to me was the following analogy.

In the human eye there are two kinds of receptors - the rods for black and white vision and the cones for color vision.  The center of the visual field or macula is filled with cones, while the peripheral area is filled with rods.  Various diseases, like macular degeneration, will cause a loss of vision in the central area called a central scotoma.  This same thing can happen with certain psychological conditions.  In these cases you can only see with your peripheral vision with the black and white sensitive rods. You miss out on the color vision from the cones in the center part of your vision.

Emotionally we all seem to begin life with a central scotoma in our emotional field.  It feels like a big black hole in the middle of everything we do in life.  We see life in black and white and everything feels empty in the middle.  Our life becomes a constant attempt to do things to fill the hole.  If we are lucky we fall in love and the hole seems magically filled for a while.  Life suddenly becomes a full color experience.  We might get it, by this experience, that the "black hole" has something to do with love.  Unfortunately the "in love" state is temporary.

Depending on our upbringing, we come to believe that various things will fill this black hole: money, fame, power, nurturance, love, recognition, control, safety, and so on.  These beliefs set the course for our life.  Everything we do ultimately seems to be designed to fill this emptiness in our emotional field.  But nothing seems to work.  As we get older and become more skilled with life, the black hole does not seem to be as noticeable, but it is still there.  Are we simply becoming skilled at navigating the world using just our peripheral vision?

No matter how much we do, that feeling of success seems to be just out of reach.  It feels like we are just never enough.  Somehow we know that that black hole will go away if we just do the "right" thing.  The beautiful experience of a full color life is just around the corner.  It drives us to keep trying and doing things even when we seem to be making no headway.

Revelation: Success is measured by contentment.

As this soaks in, a new thought emerges.  The dark spot in the perceptual field can not be filled by trying to fill it with doing.  The darkness is a lack of receptivity.  In the eye, the scotoma is not a problem with what we do with our eyes, it is a failure to receive the light that is already there.  The black hole in the emotional field that drives us our whole life is not a failure on our part to do the "right" thing, but a failure to take in and appreciate what is already there.  Appreciating "what is" is the key to resolving the black hole in our life.  When we fell "in love" we were appreciating that other person so completely that the whole world became brighter for us.  Life was wonderful simply because we appreciated "what is" for a brief period.


Why is it so hard to sustain that "in love" state?  Why? Because the appreciation does not move to completion. It needs to move into contentment.  "In love" is a state of hope and excitement that this other person is everything you ever wanted.  You project your hopes and dreams onto them.  You massively ignore anything that does not fit your picture of perfection, and appreciate every little piece that supports your picture.  Eventually reality steps in and the parts you have been ignoring hit your awareness.  When that happens, "in love" ends.  In the rare cases where people are able to stay "in love", it is because not only do they appreciate what is in the other person, they are content with what is.  They achieve success.

Success is measured by contentment.    

We have all heard about how important it is to live in a state of abundance rather than a state of lack.  Great words, but how do we do this?  I would suggest that the magical key to abundance is contentment.  When you are happy with everything that is right now, life is abundant for you.  Sure, life is full of irritations and desires, but that is no reason not to feel the blessing of the full abundance of being right here, right now.  Strangely, there is no conflict between feeling fully content and the desire to create something new.  Does the artist create because he or she is discontented with their last work of art?  No, they create because they are thrilled with the process of creation.  Art is when they feel that they are fulfilling their purpose.  Being happy with this moment does not diminish the desire to create new moments.

Most people believe abundance is getting the stuff you want.  It's not. Abundance is appreciating what you already have and being content with what you have.  This revelation turns things inside out for most people.  Life becomes a fulfilled peaceful contentment with the 'now moment' combined with the excitement of new creation - without the stress of "fear of lack" if the creation flubs up.  Since you already have all you need to be happy right now, there is no fear of failure.  There is only the joyful quest of the next adventure.  Folks who do this are the true winners in the game of life.  They are the successful ones, not the rich and famous people who spend their days in fear of loss, desperately chasing after power and money.  That life is the opposite of contentment.  There is never enough when you are invested in power... never contentment.

Success is designed to be felt as happiness with what you have created in your life.  If you start now with being happy with your life, you have instantly become a success.  

Some of you will think what I am saying is nonsense because your life if full of things you don't want.  Another way of saying this is that you are in want (in lack) of things you believe will make you happy.  Cold water moment here. Nothing outside yourself can ever make you happy.  Only you can make you happy.  The false belief is that if the outside world would only look the way you think it should, then you could be happy.  Sorry. That's never going to happen. The world is not supposed to be a reflection of you and your wants.

Our job is to be grateful for the life we have - whatever that life looks like today.  It is also our job to make our life more beautiful tomorrow.  But we still have to begin with gratitude for today.  Gratitude, appreciation, contentment - these are the virtues that will empower us to dispel that black hole in our life and embrace living in full color and joy.  The black hole is nothing more than a feeling scotoma created by not feeling gratitude, appreciation, and contentment for what is in each now moment.  We can't feel what is right in front of us if we are busy wanting it to be something other than what it is.  Put really simply, we can't feel "what is" when we are in want mode.

When we appreciate life as it is, then we are open to the support it constantly offers us.  When we demand it be the way we want, we are alone in the world.  We starve sitting at the banquet table of life because it is not the way we demand it be.  Get over yourself.  Life is not about you.  Life is a supportive playground where you get to learn how to create.  But it is not about you.  So sit down at the banquet table and eat.  Enjoy life.  Be fulfilled.  Be content.

This is Thanksgiving...

Take care,

David  

 

The holidays are coming and the lemon tree in front of my house is celebrating with a whole new crop of yummy Meyer lemons.  Naturally I take advantage of the bountiful offering by inventing a really intense lemon dessert - healthy naturally.  I am thinking this would make a nice alternative (or additional) treat at the Thanksgiving table.  It is made basically with almond flour and lemon juice so it is chock full of healthy goodness.
First the cake bottom:

3 cups almond flour
¾ cup of Dr Dave's Double Sugar
4 eggs
1 heaping teaspoon of baking powder
1 teaspoon of sea salt
1 teaspoon of lemon extract
1 teaspoon vanilla
1 cup freshly squeezed lemon juice

Mix everything together and beat until well blended.  Pour into a greased 9x9 pan.  Bake in the oven 35 to 40 minutes at 350 degrees.

Gelatin soak/filler:
1 cup freshly squeezed lemon juice
4 Teaspoons gelatin
1 teaspoon lemon extract
¾ cup of Dr Dave's Double Sugar

Put the lemon juice in a pan on the stove and add the gelatin.  Mix in the gelatin until all dissolved.  Turn on the heat and bring to a boil for 30 seconds.  Add the extract and Double Sugar.  (If you were using xylitol or palm sugar you would need to double the sugar amounts.)

With the cake finished baking poke lots of holes into it with a fork, then pour the hot gelatin over the cake.  Let it soak into the cake.  Put the cake into the fridge to cool and set the gelatin.  Once cool it is ready to eat.  For a special treat pour some fresh almond-coconut milk yogurt on top.  Enjoy.

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Finding the new location is very easy.  Coming from highway 50 up Sunrise Blvd, you turn left and go up a block.  We are on the right hand side - the building just past the Subway Sandwich shop.  If you are coming down Sunrise from the Mall area then just turn right on Fair Oaks Blvd and up a block on the right.

 

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About Dr. DeLapp

Dr. DeLapp has been a philosopher, non-force Chiropractor, medical intuitive, and health innovator for over 30 years.  He began experimenting with  medical intuition in 1972 while studying physics at UC Davis.  In addition to physics he designed and completed an individual major in the philosophy and psychology of education.  Shortly after he choose to pursue a career in the only truly health oriented profession available at that time, Chiropractic.  He graduated with honors in 1981 with his doctorate and opened a private practice. 
Since that time he has continued his research into the effects of consciousness and learning on health. 
He developed the Biomagnetic Retraining system for correcting movement abnormalities. 
Since 1991 he has focused on developing a powerful system for uncovering and assisting the mind-body connection in health and personal growth.  The in-depth coaching, guided by the subconscious direction from the body, is called Heartflow and the simpler mind-body retraining for health and unfoldment he has named Gracework.  Both are available at Fair Oaks Health.

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