FOHAC News Harmonious Co-creation#229

Published: Sun, 12/22/13

Fair Oaks Health News

Welcome

December 22, 2013

Harmonious Co-creation

Hi ,

Winter has officially arrived and the holidays are in full swing. It is the season of good cheer in which people make that extra effort to smile and wish you the best. There is this gentle harmony of purpose as everyone rushes around making preparations for holiday guests and family get-togethers.

For me, this time of year brings my attention to consider why I am here. What is the reason for my existence? How are the attitudes of the holiday season reflective of my greater purpose for living? I use opportunities, like notable events in life, to check my life course and make course corrections as dictated by my heart. That sounds more significant than it is. It is really just me asking, "What am I doing this all for?"

So why do we do this thing called life? What is the point? Some people don't like to ask that question so they just say, "We're born, we live, and then we die." I can't argue with that. It is completely true, but for me completely unsatisfying. Some research says that humans are hardwired to try to find meaning and significance in the experience of life and that we project connection and significance into life where it does not exist. While that may be true, it does not change that we also can find significance and connections where they do exist, even though it may not be obvious at all. The human history of discovery and innovation is based on this reality.

When I look at life, I see an overwhelming abundance of pattern, connection and meaning in everything. I see life repeating itself everywhere. Patterns of relationship, organization, and movement repeat themselves on every level. The laws of cause and effect, action and consequence, reveal the larger organization and order in the universe by looking at what works and what doesn't. Life for me is a maze of a billion pathways all leading in the same ultimate direction, as every path that does not go in that direction winds up a dead end.

What works? The answer is harmonious co-creation. This is one of the ultimate directions life seems to be leading us into. Every other form of creation ultimately dead-ends. Creation itself is one of those ultimate directions, as those who deny creation fail to succeed in life. Darwin saw this when he said that survival goes not to the strongest or the fastest, but to the most adaptable. Adaptability is a form of creativity.

Life reflects itself on every level. The same principles of relationship and organization that work on the level of bacterial colonization, also work on the level of cellular organization in the body and again on whole ecosystems and also on human relationships. Safety, health, and stability come from the harmonious interaction of differences. There are different species of bacteria that work together to produce a sustainable living environment on our skin and in our gut. Different types and functions of cells all work together in harmony to create a healthy body. Different types of plants and animals all work together to produce a healthy ecosystem. As humans, we are designed to use our differences to all work together to produce a healthy society.

Nature hates sameness; you don't find sameness in nature anywhere. We are completely off course when we try to make others be like us. That is unnatural. It is the blending of differences that creates strength. The desire to make other people agree with us, think like us, feel the way we feel, believe in what we believe, is our unnatural desire to deny the truth of life. We want to deny the demand life puts on us to adapt, to be creative, to constantly change and grow. We want to sit back and be comfortable and live out of old established habits that require no creation effort. We don't like having to give up our history of what worked for us in the past and update to something new that is relevant to the present moment. We don't like change. Unfortunately for us, life is change.

I believe that being creative and adaptive in each moment works. But harmonious co-creation works even better. The sum total of human history is all about this truth. When a group of people learn how to work together in harmony, human society flourishes; when they don't, it crumbles. Understand that harmony does not necessarily mean happiness, but it does optimize the opportunity for happiness. Harmony comes from win-win relationships. If each side of a transaction is getting their greatest need met through the transaction, then a level of harmony is achieved.

In a previous newsletter, I described my definition of love as the willingness to participate. In a win-win relationship, both sides are willing to participate because each side is getting something they want or need. As each person gives up something of theirs in order to get something from someone else that they want, a bond of love is established. This bond is greatly magnified if what each person does with what they get also supports others as well. This now becomes a harmonious co-creation. Not only are our initial exchanges mutually beneficial, but what we do with those exchanges provide a secondary benefit.

As an example, I offer my skills as a Chiropractor to my patients. In exchange, they pay me my fee in dollars. This is a nice win-win exchange. Now I take the dollars I gained from my exchange and I purchase groceries. As some of

my patients work at the grocery store I frequent, I inadvertently help pay their wages. This is a secondary benefit. We cycle the outcomes of our creative efforts around to form a huge circle of mutual benefit. This works. This is harmonious co-creation. We are all working together to create a healthy society. Now, if I was to horde every penny I made and bury it in my backyard, I would still be engaging in win-win transactions with my patients. However, I would not be supporting the larger goal of co-creating the society that in turn supports me.
Harmonious co-creation requires mutual participation. There can be no sustainable success in building a larger environment of societal health unless everyone participates. People who do not participate with their beneficial creative outflow add to the destruction of the larger society. We are all in this together. There are no free rides.

This truth is the deeper challenge I have to deal with in order to correct my course in life. I, like everyone else, started my existence as a freeloader in my mother's womb. My most perfect feelings of OKness, oneness, and belonging are anchored to the experience of me having to do nothing and yet getting everything. I was the center of the universe and everything was done for me. My every need was met and every wish was fulfilled without even having to ask for it. The core of my experiential brain screams at me that this is the way life is supposed to be. Then I was born and nothing has been as good since.

A part of me wants this experience back. I liked having my every wish fulfilled without even having to ask. It does not matter that all I wished for back then was food, oxygen, and warmth. That was all I knew. It felt really good and completely right. I like being the center of the universe, even if the only universe I knew was floating in amniotic fluid inside my mother.

Since being born, I now have an endless parade of needs and wants that no one cares about except me. Everyone else has the same endless parade of needs and wants that they have to struggle to achieve. I am not the center anymore. When I want something, I have to actually ask for it and I have to trade something I have created through my efforts in order to get what I want. Nothing is free anymore. I have moved from being a freeloading parasite in my mother's body, to a freely participating member of a mutual co-creation called society. I have become an

interesting and unique individual as a consequence of having to learn how to create and exchange for my needs and wants. I admit, as a freeloading parasite, I was not very interesting.

It is the old fetus part of my brain that provides the challenges in my life. The deep drives to reestablish those early feelings of OKness, oneness, and belonging conflict with what really works in life. It is impossible to recreate the circumstances of non-participation and still be the center of attention. Those feelings of belonging now come from full participation with life. OKness comes from being centered in me and the truth of who I am. Oneness comes from connecting with the interaction and flow of life that moves between all of us: The harmonious co-creation of life. This is the design of the pattern I see in life. This is the season for feeling this pattern.

Happy Holidays,

David

Some of you have driven right by the office because it looks so different. Here is how it looks this week...

Jennifer DeLapp, CMT

is back for a limited time. Book your massage now. 1 hour only appointments $60

Available dates, including two Saturdays are:

Friday, Saturday, Monday January 10, 11, 13

Friday and Saturday January 17 & 18

Please ask the receptionist for help making your hour-long appointment.

New Products in the office!

Organic Cacao Butter Chips

So you can make the yummy chocolate pie in today's article I have gotten into my private stash of organic cacao butter to make it available to you in small quantities - just enough to make 2 pies... only $7. Cacao butter is also the base I use when I make sugar free chocolate candy - as highlighted in previous newsletters.

Super Blend Sugar - Half the calories and none of the toxic fructose.

Many of you have asked for a sugar replacement that can be used exactly like sugar - well here it is! Normal sugar is dextrose combined with fructose. We now know that it is the fructose that causes the metabolic syndrome damage to your body, so I invented a sugar that is half dextrose and half erythritol - completely eliminating the toxic fructose. I put in just enough stevia extract to balance the sweetness to equal regular sugar. So here you go, the closest thing to healthy white sugar that actually acts like sugar - and it only has half the calories to boot! Only $10.95 for 4 cups - 26 ounces.

Ultrasound Physical Therapy

Now available in the office

Tuesdays and Fridays

Honey better than cough medicines for children

Several studies have found that real honey is more effective than the popular drugs dextromethorphan and diphenhydramine found in most cough remedies sold in stores. One teaspoon just before bedtime did better at reducing cough frequency and severity as well as improving sleep. I say real honey because many of the most popular commercial brands of honey have been found to be mostly just sugar and water or high fructose corn syrup. Remember not to give honey to children under a year of age as their stomach acid is no strong enough yet to kill any spores that may be found in natural honey.

Honey

Honey 2

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"The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up."
~ Mark Twain

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Meditation changes your genes

After only a single day of meditation practice dramatic changes in participants genes were measured that specifically have to do with inflammation and pain in comparison to a control group engaged in other quiet activities. Both groups tested the same before the study. Such powerful changes from mindfulness meditation give me pause to reflect on the gene changes that must be going on all the time as people do the opposite of meditation by being stressed.

Meditation

"The cheerful live longest in years, and afterwards in our regards. Cheerfulness is the off-shoot of goodness."

~Christian Nestell Bovee

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Worlds largest gingerbread house

Texas seems to like to be known for its size. So quite naturally a group of them got together to build the world's largest gingerbread house as a charity fundraiser. It took 7,200 pounds of flour, 7,200 eggs, approximately 3,000 pounds of brown sugar, 1,800 pounds of butter and 22,304 pieces of candy to build the fairytale house, which measures 20.11 ft high, 60 ft wide and 42 ft deep. To date over $150,000 has been collected for a local hospital.

Gingerbread

"Health is the condition of wisdom, and the sign is cheerfulness,--an open and noble temper."
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Our address is 9725 Fair Oaks Blvd.

Finding the new location is very easy. Coming from highway 50 up Sunrise Blvd, you turn left and go up a block. We are on the right hand side - the building just past the Subway Sandwich shop. If you are coming down Sunrise from the Mall area then just turn right on Fair Oaks Blvd and up a block on the right.

If you are coming from the Roseville area you could come down Sunrise Blvd, but that is a long trek. It is probably shorter time wise to come down Auburn Blvd - San Juan Ave like you have been for the Sunset office, but instead of turning left at Sunset, keep going straight 3 more lights to Fair Oaks Blvd and turn left. Go down 2 lights to New York Ave, go through the intersection, and immediately turn into the turn lane once the center divider ends. We are on the left.

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About Dr. DeLapp

Dr. DeLapp has been a philosopher, non-force Chiropractor, medical intuitive, and health innovator for over 30 years. He began experimenting with medical intuition in 1972 while studying physics at UC Davis. In addition to physics he designed and completed an individual major in the philosophy and psychology of education. Shortly after he choose to pursue a career in the only truly health oriented profession available at that time, Chiropractic. He graduated with honors in 1981 with his doctorate and opened a private practice.
Since that time he has continued his research into the effects of consciousness and learning on health.
He developed the Biomagnetic Retraining system for correcting movement abnormalities.
Since 1991 he has focused on developing a powerful system for uncovering and assisting the mind-body connection in health and personal growth. The in-depth coaching, guided by the subconscious direction from the body, is called Heartflow and the simpler mind-body retraining for health and unfoldment he has named Gracework. Both are available at Fair Oaks Health.

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