Wanting is a natural aspect of being alive.  We want to feel safe.  We want to eat when we are hungry.  We want affection and positive attention.  And we want a world full of things we associate with desired feeling states like cool cars, hot clothes, and lots of cash.  

For most of us our wanting both defines and creates our struggles in life.  Entire religions are based on finding happiness by eliminating our desires.  But without desire, without wanting there is no motivation to expend the effort to create anything in our lives.  There may be virtue in settling into a life as a spiritual beggar on the side of the road living with as few wants as possible, but begging is still wanting.  And if we all become beggars to live the spiritual life then who is there to put food in our bowls?  That won't work as a life path for the many.

This country was founded on the philosophy of personal creation as the path to happiness.  Virtues like self-responsibility, industry and hard work, personal vision, and self-reliance created America.  This is the exact opposite of the more Eastern philosophy of passive detachment from the world of struggle.  The western mind believed the path to happiness came through our ability to struggle and overcome obstacles.  This is what makes us great from this view.  This view results in wanting being inflated to an obsessional level.  At this point we define ourselves by current wants and past achieved wants.

For all its glory, there has been a dark price to pay for this path.  Obsessive wanting produces a competitive winner-takes-all approach that leaves most people as losers.  The top few percent end up with the bulk of the available resources because they play the competition game the best.  That leaves the losers to have to engage ugly games like victim to force their needs to be met by means other than the virtues that founded this country.

The flaw in this whole story lies much deeper than most would think.  This darkness flows from a spiritual misperception.  The core of this misperception is that the deep feeling of okness and rightness we are all seeking can ever come from anything outside ourselves.  Most people live with unconscious (and sometimes conscious) beliefs that they would be ok if only some external circumstance occurred.  This trying to create the outside to fill inner needs fails every time.  The outside can not fill the inside.  Trying to do this creates the disrespectful competitive win-lose obsessive approach to life that always fails in the long run.

So what is the alternative?  What does work, is wanting from a state of ease.

Once you fully grasp the spiritual reality that only your relationship to life, not its relationship to you, will make you feel ok, then the doors open to a whole new experience of life.  The process of wanting and creating are designed to give us a playground in which we develop and hone our relationship skills.  As we refine these skills we feel better and better inside.  We come into what some Eastern philosophies call "Right alignment with life."  

I use the term playground purposefully, because the essence of play is the enthusiastic engagement of the trial and error process.  Look at the moment to moment actions of any play activity and you will find enthusiastic engagement with trying something, watching the instant feedback from that try, then immediately adapting to try the next thing.  This is how we learn.  This is how we develop a "Right relationship with life" when we set the goal feeling we are after as heart fulfillment.  Seeking the feelings of successful mutuality is what makes the play fun.  When you play to beat others it may pump up your ego, but it does not feel good in your heart.  Ultimately feeling good in your heart is the only thing that leaves you feeling ok inside.  No amount of ego excitement can ever fill the emptiness in your heart, and that emptiness is what drives our existence down here.

It is this emptiness in our hearts that produces that feeling of lack in our lives.  And it is that lack feeling that makes us crazy.  It is lack that drives us to become obsessional in our pursuits to become successful.  It is the ego's failure to understand the source of the lack feeling that drives us to destroy our relationships as we try to demand control over others in the false belief that if we had control we could get that something that will fill that lack.  The pain and frustration this produces ultimately becomes the root of the destruction of our health.  It drives our using behaviors as we attempt to disassociate from the bad feelings and it directly destroys the neurochemical and hormonal balance our cells need to be healthy.

This ugly picture can all be turned around by literally turning our life around to living from the inside out.  This can be done on every level.  A simple example is the JFK quote "Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country."  That is inside out thinking.  We are the source of light in our lives.  Spiritually that would be expressed as we are the intermediaries between God's love and the world.  God's love flows to us and it is our job to transform it into our unique and personal expression of love to the world.  This is what fills the emptiness deep inside us - the movement of that love through us to the world.

Once we grasp that the only lack we feel inside us is the lack of our flow of love to the world, everything changes.  There is no pressure to have to "get" something from outside us to be ok.  Ego will jump up and say "What about our survival?"  Well truth is as humans, our survival needs are very small.  As hunter-gatherers 10,000 years ago, what did we have?  We survived just fine.  How much do you think you need now to be ok?  98% of what we think we need is really ego attempting to fill the emptiness in our hearts.  So we can just tell the ego to hush.  We can't fill our hearts from the outside.  The inner story we tell ourselves that begins "If only ______ then I would be ok" can now be recognized as just that - a story.  It is not true.  We can let it go.

 

This is scary work.  Success requires us to stand in a place of fearless vulnerability.  It requires us to embrace and accept life just as it is without any attempt to control it.  Control comes from that false ego entitlement to have everything be its way.  In fact we created our ego precisely to meet our few outside in needs like food and shelter to survive.  Our ego simply got misappropriated to try to meet our heart needs, which it can't do working from the outside in - and that is all it knows.  Filling our heart demands we be vulnerable to what is in each moment and adapt ourselves to it to find our most effective expression of our shining light.

We influence our world through our gifts of self, not through our demand for control.  We create our world experience with the voluntary participation of those around us as they gift us with their light in exchange for our light.  This is scary to realize if we are accustomed to thinking that getting things we want will make us feel ok.  But it works once we get it that the okness we are seeking actually comes from our outflow in positive relationship with life.  

We can not demand relationship from others as that denies their purpose and path.  We can only offer who we are.  In fact that is all we ever really have to offer the world - who we are, our light, our love given in ease.

The holiday season is now officially upon us.  Wanting from a state of ease and giving from a state of ease will make the holidays truly joyous.

Take care and Happy Holidays,

David     

 

 

Take care,

David          

 

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Eating Loads of Carbs May Cause You to Lose Your Mind

Here is a blunt article on Mercola.com based on some recent studies that show that folks in their 70's and 80's suffer brain impairment when they eat a lot of carbs.  Those with the highest carb intake were twice as likely to have cognitive difficulties while those with the highest level of fat intake and protein intake were each much less likely to have problems.  The article points out that senile dementia is now understood to be a form of brain diabetes, so carbs are bad news for older folks.

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About Dr. DeLapp

Dr. DeLapp has been a philosopher, non-force Chiropractor, medical intuitive, and health innovator for over 30 years.  He began experimenting with  medical intuition in 1972 while studying physics at UC Davis.  In addition to physics he designed and completed an individual major in the philosophy and psychology of education.  Shortly after he choose to pursue a career in the only truly health oriented profession available at that time, Chiropractic.  He graduated with honors in 1981 with his doctorate and opened a private practice. 
Since that time he has continued his research into the effects of consciousness and learning on health. 
He developed the Biomagnetic Retraining system for correcting movement abnormalities. 
Since 1991 he has focused on developing a powerful system for uncovering and assisting the mind-body connection in health and personal growth.  The in-depth coaching, guided by the subconscious direction from the body, is called Heartflow and the simpler mind-body retraining for health and unfoldment he has named Gracework.  Both are available at Fair Oaks Health.

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