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December 13, 2008
You Are Perfect
Hi ,
You Are Perfect.
One of my patients asked for an upbeat article for Christmas. I figured what could be more upbeat than to communicate just how perfect each and every one of you are. Many of you have heard me say this in the past, but rarely do I have the chance to explain how this is true. To me it is obvious, but to show you why, I have to show you how it does not seem true to you. Time for a bit of my observation on how life works just like the body.
To understand this let's use a picture analogy. Imagine a long teeter-totter. You are sitting on one side and somebody else is sitting on the other. Balanced right in the center is a big bag of candy. Both of you are hungry for the candy. The objective is to play on the teeter-totter and also get some candy. As you know, for a teeter-totter to work both of you have to balance each other so you can have the fun of going up and down.
Now for the fun part... if you decide you don't like the other person and slide yourself way back on the teeter-totter you cause them to go up in the air and you go down into the ground. Here you have managed to refuse to play with them (the up and down play stops), but you have also pushed yourself away from the candy.
If you decide to go for the candy and slide forward then the other person drops to the ground and again the playing stops. That person is stuck on the ground having no fun and getting no candy. In either retaliation or boredom they decide to step off the teeter-totter and go play somewhere else. You now crash down, roll over backwards and hit your head while spilling and losing all the candy. So that didn't work.
If you both don't like each other but your mom's said you had to play, you both might move to the ends of the teeter-totter. There is balance here although the ride is a bit wild with such big swings up and down. Unfortunately neither of you can reach any candy.
If both of you aggressively get on the teeter-totter determined to get the candy and the heck with playing then both of you slide up as close to the candy as possible. Now however, you are both face-to-face and you start fighting over the candy. Punching and hitting and defending yourselves actually gives you no opportunity to eat and enjoy any of the candy. Huh, still not working.
There are a thousand variations of positions on the teeter-totter, but there is only one that works. Both of you have to slide forward just far enough to reach into the bag of candy to get a piece, but not far enough to be in the other person's space where you could fight or compete with each other. In this place you are far enough back to be able to enjoy each others company and both have fun tottering back and forth while sharing the candy.
This process of finding the right balance in relationship is the same process I described in the last newsletter as how the body stays healthy. It is called homeostasis. In human relationships it is called win-win.
Each of us has a feeling blueprint inside of us that knows when we are in balance with life, just as we have zillions of internal feedback signals that control that internal homeostasis balance. The blueprint for perfect health and a perfect life is within us. It communicates with us through our here-and-now feelings (the ones we usually ignore). (It is not our emotions, which are about our past.) This perfection lies within our genetic potential, and our spiritual heritage. It is who we are designed to be. It is who we are becoming.
When a mother gives birth to here baby she may have visions of here baby becoming a doctor or lawyer or some great person. Does that mother feel her child is damaged or broken because it is not a doctor or lawyer of great and powerful person while lying there in diapers? Of course not; at that moment that baby is all un-manifested potential. Every area of our lives where we have not figured out how to find that perfect balance on the teeter-totters of life are areas where we are still un-manifested potential.
Paying attention to your feelings is the key to unfolding your potential to manifest the perfect you in your perfect life. This does not mean what you probably think it means. Feelings are visceral internal sensations that tell you how you are doing. They are like the dashboard dials and lights in your car. They tell you whether you are running too hot, are running out of gas, or if you are traveling within the speed limit. Feelings do not have any stories attached to them. They do not have any history to them. They are not about anything other than your internal sense of balance and happiness with life. Psychiatrists and counselors deal with the play of emotions, which come up when our interactions with life are not working. Emotions are about the story of what has gone wrong (or right) in our interactions. What we really need to know is did our interaction leave us feeling balanced and good or not. If yes, then we are on the right track, if not then we need to do and be something else (pick a different position on the teeter-totter). We end up having to go to a counselor when we are too stubborn to move and think that it is the "the other person" that needs to be different.
There are 70 primary energetic relationships in life...70 teeter-totters for us to learn how to find that perfect balance where we can play and reach into the bag of sweetness of life. We are like a child's 70-piece puzzle waiting to be put together so that we can discover who we really are. Our picture is not finished yet, as all the pieces are not in place. We have the blueprint within us. We feel when that balance is happening. We feel when we are able to reach the sweetness of life. We even have a good idea of what "the other person" looks like when we are in a balanced play on that teeter-totter of life. Unfortunately we can't see ourselves objectively. We have to depend on feedback from others.
Our feeling self is the guide, as that is the part of us that can read the blueprint. Our head/action self is the part that has to do the actual building based on the blueprint. Our head/ego directs us to try different positions (attitudes, beliefs, values) and actions (interaction skills) until we figure out where the balance point is on each of the 70 teeter-totters. Our feelings have to guide us but our actions are required to actually take us there.
You are perfect. I am perfect. We are like that baby - full of potential. We can feel our way to full shining perfection. We are simply not finished yet.
The Gift of Giving
Do you have anyone on your Christmas list that you just do not know what to give them? Give them the gift of health. If they are not already patients of Fair Oaks Health, then give them a $20 gift certificate towards a New Patient exam. Best of all, give it to them at no cost to yourself! Just go to:
and print as many $20 gift certificates as you would like for as many people as you would like. This is a gift for you as well, because for every person that redeems one of these certificates, I will gift you with a $10 credit toward services for yourself at the office. This is a chance to receive as you give because I believe in win - win relationships.
Have a great Holiday!
Thanks
Dr. Dave
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On the Wire
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"The only way to discover the limits of the possible is to venture a little way past them to the impossible."
Arthur C. Clarke
Technology helps Santa make magic
A professor of mechanical and aerospace engineering at North Carolina State University explained yesterday how Santa Clause is able to stretch time and compress space to actually give himself 6 months in Santa time to deliver all the presents to all the children of the world. His research has also found that Santa actually uses nano-technology to construct the presents "on site" rather than having to carry all the presents in his sleigh.
Technology helps Santa make magic
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time."
- Thomas Edison
Dark chocolate more filling
Scientific studies have found that dark chocolate is not only more filling than milk chocolate, but can actually be used to reduce appetite for other less healthy foods for up to 5 hours. The participants stated that the plain chocolate made them feel less like eating sweet, salty or fatty foods. Good to know just before Christmas.
Dark chocolate more filling
The only way to have a friend is to be one.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
3-D Floating Art
Here is some really cool "Floating Art". Thousands of objects suspended with strings become floating faces and birds when looked at from a distance.
Excellence is not a skill. It is an attitude.
Ralph Marston
Broccoli offsets cancer promoting effect of stress
People tend to be more stressed than usual before Christmas. Your friends the cruciferous vegetables like broccoli, cabbage, and cauliflower contain a substance that neutralizes norepinephrine, a stress neurotransmitter that is also a cause of cancer. Bottom line, eat your vegetables.
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Make it a habit to tell people thank you. To express your appreciation, sincerely and without the expectation of anything in return. Truly appreciate those around you, and you'll soon find many others around you. Truly appreciate life, and you'll find that you have more of it.
Ralph Marston
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About Dr. DeLapp
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Dr. DeLapp has been a philosopher, non-force Chiropractor, medical intuitive, and health innovator for over 30 years. He began experimenting with medical intuition in 1972 while studying physics at UC Davis. In addition to physics he designed and completed an individual major in the philosophy and psychology of education. Shortly after he choose to pursue a career in the only truly health oriented profession available at that time, Chiropractic. He graduated with honors in 1981 with his doctorate and opened a private practice.
Since that time he has continued his research into the effects of consciousness and learning on health.
He developed the Biomagnetic Retraining system for correcting movement abnormalities.
Since 1991 he has focused on developing a powerful system for uncovering and assisting the mind-body connection in health and personal growth. The in-depth coaching, guided by the subconscious direction from the body, is called Heartflow and the simpler mind-body retraining for health and unfoldment he has named Gracework. Both are available at Fair Oaks Health.
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Holiday Sweet Potato
(or Yam, or Zucchini, or Pumpkin, or Banana) Cranberry Nut loaf
There is nothing like a slice of a nice sweet quick bread at the holidays. This basic recipe can be used with a variety of vegetable or starchy fruit flavor ingredients.
8 Large eggs
½ cup melted butter or coconut oil
½ cup mashed cooked sweet potato, yam, zucchini, pumpkin, or banana
¼ cup apple sauce
¼ cup erythritol or xylitol
¼ cup molasses
¼ cup raw honey
1 tsp. Stevia
1 tsp. Vanilla
1 tsp. Cinnamon
½ tsp. mace
½ tsp. Salt
Mix all these together in a large bowl until smooth.
Add:
¾ cup sifted coconut flour and
1 tsp. Baking soda
Mix well then add:
¼ cup slivered almonds, or pecans, or walnuts
½ cup dried sweetened cranberries
Stir in until blended and scrape into a greased 9x5x3 baking pan.
Bake at 350 degrees for 1 hour.
Let cool 10 minutes then remove from pan and cool at least 1 hour more.
I didn't wait and cut off a slice right away - what a crumbly mess...better to let it cool a bit so it will cut nicely. This makes a wonderful and healthy Christmas treat - low in carbohydrates and sugars.
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